Ever since being a little girl I’ve always imagined being a Mother. I used to play with baby dolls, pretending to change their nappies, feed them their milk and burp them afterwards. I used to love holding babies and playing with children. I knew without a doubt I wanted to be a Mother and be a good one.
But what makes a good Mother?
Unfortunately, we didn’t receive the greatest reactions from some people when we announced our pregnancy. We were continuously told worries about us becoming parents so soon after being married. I was told I wasn’t mentally stable enough to become one yet – among other things – and I don’t think people realized how much their reactions and words had affected us, nor how much they hurt us. All throughout my pregnancy I have never forgotten the words I was told, and I continuously found that I was asking myself: “Will I be a good enough Mother?”
No one can put a definition of what makes a good Mother, because every Mother is different. Each situation is unique, each Mother has a different challenge, different skills and abilities, and certainly different children. Nobody becomes a Mother and is immediately an expert. It’s a learn as you go kind of thing, there will be mistakes made – no doubt, but mistakes are the learning curves we need to grow.
So my answer to what makes a good Mother is simple: There is no answer. There is no perfect way to be a good mother.
Don’t let anyone tell you that you’re not good enough – how others see you is not important. But how you see yourself, means everything!